1. Stick to routines
Take the needless guesswork out of meals and bedtimes. Let everyone relax into the predictable flow of a healthy and secure life. children feel more secure when they have boundaries and are able to predict what is going to happen next. Of course there will be changes to routine, but explain why the changes are happening and that things will go back to normal tomorrow so your little ones know what to expect.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
Don’t struggle needlessly, people offer to help because they really want to be there for you. Take time everyday for yourself and connect with the things that matter to you as an individual. Check out stress less for more ideas. Happy Mums are not afraid to ask…and Very Happy Mums just say, “Please.”
3. Get out and about
Fresh air, sunlight, and nature are believed to be critical mood enhancers for women, pack up the push chair and get out in the park. take some time with your baby and check out what is around your area. It doesn’t have to be for hours on end. ten minutes will make all the difference and lift your mood for the day.
4. You have heard it before….that’s because it works!
hitting the gym can feel a bit self indulgent with little ones around. but keeping fit and healthy is so important for your mental health. Exercise will also support your stamina and help you get a better night’s sleep. call in a favour, get to a zumba class and sweat it out.
5. Reduce distractions
switch off the radio, the TV and put your phone away. These artificial distractions throughout the day are stress inducing and reduce your ability to switch your attention from one task to the next. They also affect the amount of time you are able to concentrate on things. When you can, get some peace, reduce the stimulation, switch it off and connect with what is going on around you.
6. Give more attention.
And less of everything else. Devote ten minutes a day to giving undistracted attention to your children. Not in activities driven by your agenda, but according to their terms. Undivided attention is the most concrete expression of love you can give. see our special time post for more ideas
7. Say sorry
The best way to teach your little ones is by example. Be the first to apologise and instantly restore household harmony. By your doing it, your children will learn humility, empathy and forgiveness.
8. Get some rest
I know right? are we kidding! In the first months..years of a baby’s life mums can wear sleep deprivation like a badge of honour. but the sooner you get your eight hours back the more joyful you will really feel.
9. Give your body what it needs to stay alert, to exercise and to support your babies.
Go for sugar free muesli or bran flakes or porridge for brekkie and try to eat as much fruit and veg as you can throughout the day….if you aim for 10 pieces instead of 5 you will find it doesn’t give you much room to eat anything else
10. Plan some time with your mates
You need something to look forward to on the horizon to stay positive throughout the day. Whether it’s book club, a joint gym sesh, or a night on the tiles make sure you have something in your diary that is going to keep you pumped.
The best support you can give your child is a stress free, happy parent – it is not selfish to make time for yourself. so go on, call a friend, make a plan, call in a favour, it’s time to get back to being you.
Make time for yourself
Its hard to juggle, work, kids, food shopping and playdates. And people pointing out that you might be stressed seems…well… pretty obvious. But try and remember that children absorb knowledge and experience from everything that goes on around them. It is important that you are in a healthy balanced state of mind. If you are stressed or upset your little one will pick up on how you are feeling.
Forget expensive toys and days out! a healthy happy parent is the most important resource for language learning.
Where do I start?
once a week do something just for you without your children or partner. It is vital you take time to nurture yourself. organise a time when older children are at school and younger children can be looked after by a friend or relative. Alternatively ask friend to babysit for a couple of hours one week. You will often find people are very willing to help – you can always return the favour.
Remember, it is not selfish it is absolutely necessary and it is imperative to keep your mind healthy.
Here’s some ideas
- go for a long walk and play you favourite music
- take a bath – add your favourite oils, do a facemask and condition your hair
- go to a coffee shop and browse your favourite blog or read a magazine
- Have a massage or get your nails painted
- Go for a run or to the gym
- Make yourself a cup of tea and call a friend you’ve not had time to speak to in a while.
- go to a yoga class
- try this app from playlab, flowy, it was designed for people with anxiety, but can be useful for us all when we feel a moment coming on! – its great fun too.